Forgiveness is not just beneficial for the person receiving it; it is sometimes necessary for the person who was wronged as well.

Forgiveness sounds great on paper but everyone knows that it is often harder than it seems.

Now before we begin, forgiveness does not mean that you have to be friends with that person again and it definitely does not mean you should associate with an abuser. It does not mean lessening the legal punishment of the crime. Moreover, forgiveness does not have to be mutual reconciliation no matter how big or small the problem was. Forgiveness is an internal acceptance that helps you move on from the pain and recover.

It is understandably much harder to forgive when someone hurt you in a deep way and is neither seeking forgiveness nor feels remorseful.

So why should we forgive?

Think of it this way: you are not forgiving someone for their sake but for your own. Carrying all of this hurt, bitterness, and anger after a while can affect your health, both mentally and even physically. The first step to recovery is acceptance and with acceptance comes forgiveness. Forgiveness is transferring all the anger, pain, bitterness, or ill will you understandably have towards that person and allowing yourself to have peace of mind instead. You cannot fully recover when you are stuck in feelings of pain, anger, pity, or revenge. Acceptance is what makes recovery possible.    Recovery is a process, not an immediate change. Recovery does not mean forgetting what happened, shutting your emotions off, or never feeling sad again; it means to live the best you can with what you have and to accept what has happened without holding onto it.  Recovery means that although some pain may never leave, you are above the pain, not drowning in it. Living in deep unforgiveness is a barrier to your recovery; acceptance is key.